Really. Women aren't the only ones who make anything complicated.

Why is it...I mean how can the two genders be so opposite of each other? How can men not be as concerned about what comes out of there mouths or how it is going to affect others? I can't seem to wrap my mind around the concept.

Like a man says something that to him doesn't really mean anything and yet when he says it to a woman she takes it as an insult of sorts.

For example. Today someone said to me, a man, when talking about what his friend had asked him concerning me. "So are you going to sleep with her, you know she wants you bad."

Maybe I shouldn't have been slightly offended by that or maybe I am over shooting this a bit but the way he said it, and he laughed afterwards, and I just cringed at it. Cause to me it sounded like he didn't want me and that he doesn't still. I shouldn't really look at it that way cause he would have to want me if we have been together, right?

I mean I don't get why women deal with things emotionally or why we hang onto things that men don't. I'm sure he doesn't even remember saying that to me cause it was such an off the cuff comment but here I am hours later dwelling on it and what it could mean. He said more during the conversation which just continued to make me inwardly cringe cause I don't think he knew that what he was saying was making me feel cheap. Cause he would never intentionally say things like that if he knew that he was upsetting me in the slightest. We joke around, don't get me wrong, and he says things but then I know that we are messing so I let it slide off my back.

I suppose because I'm insecure where this guy is concerned and I don't really know what he is thinking about something. He has his actions which I understand but then...see what I mean, I want to talk about why he does the things he does, to be reassured that he is doing it because of the reasons I think he is doing and I KNOW he doesn't want to talk about them because he doesn't see it the way I do.

And that's what gets me. How can the two sexes be so different?  Why must women anyalze things and want to talk about them and disect them until you have it down to the basics in order to feel like you have a handle on the situation and men just dont even think about it in the same way? There are times where I don't want to discet it to death and I just get it for what it is and move on but other times I want to be laid down on a couch and have some shrink listen to me and explain it all away. Why is that?

Then I don't want to come off as clingly or you know scary by any means to talk to him about it. Cause we have never really set down and talked about what this thing is between us because there has never been a good moment to do so and I'm sure he doesn't even dwell on it like I do. But oh well. I think I may have to talk to him about it sometime in the near future for my own sainity.